Food Judgement

Mama’s Fish House on Maui. August 2018.

Mama’s Fish House on Maui. August 2018.

I wrote about judgement on Instagram the other day and I got a lot of positive, encouraging feedback. I figured that I would elaborate in my first-ever blog post on my newly designed website.

I have been eating plant-based for over a year now and I really do love the way that it feels. I feel good about what I am doing for the planet and the animals, and it also makes me feel good physically. I do however, feel that it has become a little bit of an obsession on my end. I love to be in control and veganism feeds that trait of mine.

This whole concept of food judgement didn’t really hit me until I was in Hawaii. Every night my family would order beautiful dishes of locally caught fish and I wanted to try it so badly. It always looked, smelled and sounded delightful and my body really craved it. At first, I didn’t let myself. I also found that I was judging myself for wanting non-vegan foods. But the more that I thought it over, I realized that I have these feelings of judgement because it’s all we see in today’s world.

I think that especially in this health food-world I have consumed myself with, there are so many different opinions on eating habits. A lot of those opinions, especially in the vegan community, come out as harsh judgments rather than positive insight. It’s easy to judge yourself when you feel the rest of the world doing the same.

I try my very best not to judge others on their eating habits. I find it so personal. If you really think about it, our food choices are one of the only daily choices we make that involve ourselves only. What we think tastes good, what we consider healthy, what we think feels good: these are all independent thoughts that can’t be decided by someone else. So why are we all judging each other so harshly?

If you read the Instagram, you know that I ended up eating the fish when I was in Hawaii. It honestly felt pretty liberating. I was able to let go of all the judgement toward myself and experience a culture with my family. I’m still plant-based. I still believe that we cant sustain at the rates that we kill animals for food. But I do what I can and I’m proud of myself and if you’re making changes for the better of yourself, then you should be too.

We’re all on a journey, working towards different goals, with different abilities, trying to get by. Any effort to do better should be celebrated, not criticized. All of our efforts combined make a huge difference, and that must be realized.

So many people come to me saying that they can’t give up certain foods such as cheese, but want to eat plant-based. There are absolutely no rules when it comes to these diets. There is no reason that you can’t be a vegan who eats cheese when you’re out at a restaurant. I am also ready to be less obsessive. I decided to be lenient with myself on vacation, but that doesn’t mean you can’t do the same more or less frequently. I will say it again: your efforts to change are to be celebrated. Lets promise to be kinder to ourselves, celebrate our efforts, and do the same with others.

Rebecca Tolan